How to truly find happiness.
How To Stay Connected To Your Partner When You're Going Through A Rough Time
So many of my clients come to me asking to help them find happiness. They treat this emotion as something that they have lost, and if by changing something they hate in their life, or learning how to set goals, they will magically stumble upon this “lost” treasure.
When we feel lost and unfulfilled, we look for things, other people and sometimes make immense changes in our lives in hopes that doing a 180 will bring us that commodity of happiness. Except happiness is not something you can buy or find; it has to be created from the inside. So here are some things to stop doing, followed by some things that you should be doing to find YOUR happiness.
1. If I focus on changing external circumstances, then I will find happiness. A lot of my clients tell me
If you and your partner are going through tough times, you might find that, on top of everything else, it also feels like you're drifting apart. It can, after all, be difficult to maintain a connection when your thoughts are elsewhere, when you're stressed, or when life is going awry. And yet, whether it's a problem within your relationship, or something external, it is possible to stay connected through it all.
Instead of turning away from each other, as many people naturally do when they're feeling overwhelmed, "it is extremely important for [you both] to make the extra effort during such times to prevent drifting apart or allowing the challenge to cause a break up in the relationship," Dr. Catherine Jackson, licensed psychologist and board-certified neurotherapist, tells Bustle.